McDonald's grandmother in korea

McDonald's grandmother, "A year ago, Starbucks went ..."


Gwanghwamun cafés current reading English newspapers and the Bible. "Presidential" many complaints nowadays

Money Today reporter Park Jin Young
Input: 12/18/2012

Welcome lunch time white-collar white hair in the past 17 days in San grandmother, three thousand three hundred fifty-five gravitate Gwanghwamun in a corner of a cafe 'elegantly' book I was reading. English Bibles either paper bags or newspapers pile and one bag of belongings aside quietly intone. Nid joneunga coffee and he wanted to order one and ate cheesecake.



Two years ago, spent 24 hours collecting interest at McDonald's McDonald's grandmother '. He look into topics having to stay up all night to visit McDonald's hamburger outlets around downtown Seoul McDonald grandmother (grandmother) Mac Issues Let Mr.. Yet, reiterated his 'youth' age does not teach.



Now grandmother, 'Grandma Mac nicknamed the gambling game that was no longer Kwon Starbucks from a year ago, had 24 hours here (cafe) found mainly 'Lucky' "becoming" beholden "he explained.



Years, leaving behind McDonald's in the famous Starbucks coffee shop visits, and more recently widen the 'copper' as a 24-hour cafe area widened.



'Grandma Mac' have been lived outer life  slip more than 10 years said. Asked "live" church neighbors a little money to help provide an update on these days, "I wake up in the morning from the church in worship at dawn the morning I eat again return to a cafe," he said.







Regularly grandmother's day. Cafe after returning a cup of coffee and read the morning newspaper. 'To tell the world go' gotta read newspaper. Not read a lot these days, just one look. Also had a profound political elite who worked 17 years in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs claimed that each



◇ "Nowadays presidential election many complaints"



Grandmother was dissatisfied with the presidential elections nowadays. Vomited impassioned.



Hye Moon Jae also both experienced so little people "too young people's 'experience'. U.S. President Reagan his nearly 70-year-old man yireolttae President got it covered better than anyone, but you talked of the economy Of course, this also try not young, passionate people. eager that they're closing the mouth like a dumb too. jeoreotgedo try it, but if never experienced the absolute unknown something. Okay, "I heard the age



Grandma "is a bipartisan presidential candidates 'disqualification'" nailed. Leave that's for another time "(candidate) did not know my father well You've passed, I do so is contrary to democracy Daddy turned sadly gateumyeon night candidacy I put out a little more fabulous finish Were not want to honor or something like that think it's more to the will of God that did not fit Stepping Moon Jae-he's too young. 'case the woman should not be thinking' Moon Jae trying to shoot That's stupid. "



Presidential ssotdeon impassioned story my grandmother came back again to the story of the day-to-day.



My parents passed away, the biggest crisis in your life, suffered, and was in despair when he would have spared himself the Bible (the Bible) is



Father, a successful lumber business go "when I was a kid, I grew up too finely. Parents're in the arms of the mountains without difficulty. Poems did not go to rattle my parents died. Quiet personality, I always leave me locked inside any border style. Parents died Shinny're who I do not know anything realistically like a line from Shakespeare's Hamlet, 'To-be or Not-to-be'. literally life and death that worries did., But Not-to-be (to die) do not? desperately began to pray. "









Grandmother suffer through and learned a lot, he said.



Were 60 elderly crumpled when it gets plain ugly to worry mia Heck, it was learned that such a thing is not the important point.



Realized nothing came alive trapped in their framework. 'God has given to me half wait while reading books, grabbed me' intercept 'not' appear 'hunting' and so little said. If I met him, and I would expect, but still half've not met him yet was the greatest hope for himself.



◇ "suffer through" to

Grandmother told reporters, "My granddaughter," he said. Age to get married soon enough would also be mourning in raising the company going out, it will be hard but, "That's all right, do so to him," he advised. Instead of less money than men working the same when "Be angry," he advised.



A picture of yourself something pretty.'' Written directly picked Asked to write down the kanji name 'lady reporter' Spirit 'snowflake pitches he who made the first kanji and new copies of the above' non-Wu (雨) 'rather than' two sheep (兩) 's talking self-Would not it be nice to see gave 'I'm sorry, but renamed both harmonious good because' he added.



Grandma Bonnie '0' snowflake reminds me of the large snowflakes truly peaceful few days ago, "It was cute." Handed the early Christmas greeting, "Merry Christmas, Wight (White) Christmas".







맥도날드 할머니 "1년전 스타벅스 갔다가…"

광화문 한 카페서 신문·영어성경책 탐독…"요즘 대선 불만 많아"

머니투데이 박진영 기자
입력 : 2012.12.18

지난 17일 머리가 하얗게 샌 할머니가 점심시간을 맞이해 샐러리맨들이 삼삼오오 몰리는 서울 광화문의 한 카페 한 켠에 '우아하게' 책을 읽고 있었다. 신문더미가 든 종이가방 하나와 소지품이 든 가방 하나를 곁에 두고 영어 성경책을 조용히 읊조렸다. 꾸벅꾸벅 조는가 싶더니 커피와 치즈케이크 하나를 주문해 와 먹었다.



2년 전 맥도날드에서 24시간을 보내면서 관심을 모은 '맥도날드 할머니'. 그는 서울 중심가 곳곳의 맥도날드 햄버거 매장을 방문해 밤을 지새우는 모습으로 화제가 된 '맥도날드 할머니'(맥할머니) 권하자씨였다. 아직 자신은 '청춘'이라 나이는 가르쳐 주지 않는다고 거듭 강조했다.



할머니는 이제 '맥할머니'라는 별칭은 더 이상 걸맞지 않는다고 했다. 권씨는 "1년 전쯤 부터는 스타벅스에 주로 있었는데 24시간 하는 여기(카페)를 발견해서 '럭키'"라며 "신세를 좀 지고 있다"고 설명했다.



유명세를 탄 뒤 맥도날드를 떠나 1년 전부터는 스타벅스 등 커피전문점도 방문하고, 최근엔 '동선'을 넓혀 24시간 운영 카페로도 영역을 넓혔다.



'맥할머니'는 바깥생활을 한지도 어느덧 10년이 넘었다고 했다. 요즘 근황을 묻자 "교회 이웃들이 조금씩 도와주는 돈으로 산다"며 "아침에 일어나서 새벽 예배 드리고 교회에서 나오는 아침 밥 먹고 다시 카페로 돌아온다"고 말했다.







할머니의 하루는 규칙적이다. 카페로 돌아온 뒤 커피 한 잔을 시키고 조간신문을 읽는다. '세상 돌아가는 일을 알려면' 신문은 꼭 읽어야 한단다. 요즘은 많이는 못 읽고 꼭 1개씩은 본다. 외무부에서 17년간 일했던 엘리트라는 주장답게 정치도 일가견이 있었다.



◇"요즘 대선 불만많다"



할머니는 요즘 대통령선거에 불만이 많았다. 열변을 토했다.



"박근혜도 문재인도 둘다 경험이 너무 부족해. 사람들이 너무 젊고. 사람은 결국 '경험'이야. 미국 레이건 대통령도 그 사람이 거의 70세 이럴때 대통령이 됐거든. 그런데 누구보다 잘 했단 말이지. 우리나라는 경륜있는 사람들이 너무 입을 벙어리처럼 닫고 있어. 물론 이 사람들은 젊어서 열정이 있지. 열망같은 게 있어서 이렇게도 해보고 저렇게도 해보지. 그건 좋지만 경험해보지 못하면 절대 알 수 없는 게 있어. 나도 나이 들어서 알았어"



할머니는 "양당 대선후보는 모두 '자격미달'이다"고 못 박았다. "(박 후보는)아버님이 잘 하셨지. 잘 하셨는데 그게 또 시간 지나보니 민주주의에 반하는 그런거더라고. 그렇게 슬프게 갔으면 (박 후보) 본인은 좀 안나오는게 더 멋진 마무리가 아니었나 싶지. 명예나 그런 걸 떠나서 그게 더 하나님 뜻에 맞지 않았나 하는 생각이 든다는 거지. 문재인 그 사람은 너무 어려. 혹시나 '여자는 안된다' 이런 생각에 문재인 찍으려 한다 그러면 그건 멍청한거야"



대선 이야기에 열변을 쏟던 할머니는 다시 일상의 이야기로 돌아왔다.



부모님이 돌아가시면서 인생에서 가장 큰 위기를 겪었고, 그 때 절망에서 자신을 구해준 것이 '바이블(성경)'이라고 했다.



"어렸을 때 너무 곱게 자랐어. 아버지가 성공한 목재 사업가라 부모님 품에서 어려움 없이 산거야. 시집도 안가고. 그런데 덜컥 부모님이 돌아가셨어. 나는 성격도 조용해서 항상 어떤 테두리안에 나를 가둬두고 살았어. 부모님이 돌아가시니 나는 현실적으로 아무것도 모르는 사람인거야. 셰익스피어의 햄릿에 나오는 대사처럼 'To-be or Not- to-be'. 말그대로 죽느냐 사느냐 그걸 고민했지. 그런데 Not-to-be(죽는 것) 할 순 없잖아? 그래서 필사적으로 기도하기 시작했지"









할머니는 고생을 통해 많은 것을 알게 됐다고 했다.



젊었을 때는 60대 노인이 되면 쭈글쭈글해 못생겨지면 어쩌나 고민이었는데, 그런 것이 중요한 점이 아니란 것도 알게 됐다.



자신이 틀에 갇혀 살아왔다는 것도 깨달았다. 하느님이 내려준 '반쪽'이 나타나 나를 '낚아채기'를 책만 읽으며 기다릴 게 아니라 '헌팅'도 좀 하고 그래야 했다고 말했다. 그렇지만 여전히 반쪽을 아직 못 만났으니 그 사람을 만났으면 하고 기대하는 것이 자신에게는 가장 큰 희망이라고 했다.



◇"고생해야 통한다"

할머니는 기자에게 "내 손녀 같다"고 했다. 나이가 그 정도면 곧 결혼도 할 텐데 애도 키우면서 회사 다니면 힘들겠지만 "그게 맞으니 그렇게 하라"고 조언했다. 대신 똑같이 일하고 남자보다 돈을 적게 주면 "화를 내라"고 충고했다.



자신의 사진은 예쁜 걸로 써달라며 직접 골랐다. '기자아가씨' 이름을 한자로 적어달라고 해 건넸더니 '눈꽃 영'자는 처음 본다며 위의 부수가 '비 우(雨)'자 보다는 '두 양(兩)'자가 더 좋지 않겠냐며 새로운 한자를 만들어 줬다. '이름을 바꿔서 미안하지만 양쪽이 조화로운 게 좋기 때문'이라고 덧붙였다.



할머니는 '눈꽃 영'을 보니 생각이 난다며 "며칠 전 함박눈이 참 평화롭고 예뻤어요" 라며 "메리 크리스마스, 와이트(White) 크리스마스" 라고 이른 크리스마스 인사를 건넸다.

Mandatory education planned for Koreans marrying other Asians

Mandatory education planned for Koreans marrying other Asians

By Kim Rahn Those marrying foreigners, mainly from other Asian countries, will be obliged to take a mandatory three-hour class on the culture of the would-be spouses’ countries, according to the Ministry of Justice, Monday. This is part of measures to lessen problems in interracial marriage resulting from a lack of understanding of each other’s background. Civic groups, however, say the three-hour education will not be particularly effective, calling for a more comprehensive solution. According to the revised regulations taking effect at the end of the month or early February, Koreans who are to marry foreigners must take the class on the culture and customs of the future spouses’ countries. The affected countries are Vietnam, China, the Philippines, Cambodia, Mongolia, Uzbekistan and Thailand. “We’ve selected these seven countries first, because of the demand for Korean citizenship from foreign spouses from them, and the high divorce rate from their Korean partners,” a ministry official from the Social Integration Division said. Most marriages involving the countries are between Korean men in rural regions and women from these nations, the official said. The classes will be provided at 14 immigration offices nationwide. “Those participating in the program will learn about the culture and customs of the countries, as well as listen to cases and experiences of ‘predecessors.’ It is a beginning stage, and wedevelop the program and expand the number of affected countries,” the official said. If the Korean partner does not take the obligatory education, the authorities will not issue an F-2 residence visa to the immigrant spouse. There is an exception: If a Korean stays in a foreign country for over 45 days, dates a native there and decides to marry him or her, the Korean will not have to take the program. Also, if a foreigner stays here for over 90 days, dates a Korean and decides to tie the knot, the Korean is also exempted from the mandatory education. “We see 45 to 90 days as enough time for a couple to get to know each other before getting married. To prevent the misuse of the exemption clause, the couple has to prove their intimacy and dating history — we’ll examine their immigration records and emails exchanged between the two, and interview their family members,” the official said. The Ministry of Gender Equality and Family also consented to the program, saying they will evaluate the system with related authorities after three years of operation. Civic groups for migrant women are skeptical of the program, doubting how many Korean men will take the education seriously and sincerely. “International marriage matchmaking firms have Korean men choose the nationality, age, school career and several other conditions of their future wives. Then the men are like, ‘Oh, my friend said Vietnamese women are good, and considering my age of 42, a woman in their early 20s will be nice as I like young girls.’ Then the firms give them a list of several candidates meeting the conditions. It’s like selecting a product,” said Kim Jun-gu at the Daejeon Migrant Women Rights Center. “That is the basic system of many interracial marriages here, and what will three hours of education change?” Kim said such a mindset partly results from the fact that the men pay money to go to foreign countries, meet candidates and give some of it to the woman’s family, while the rest goes to the matchmaking firm. “The nation should change the interracial marriage system by monitoring matchmaking firms and cracking down on companies that commit illegal acts. The government should also come up with comprehensive measures, as even 30 hours of education is not enough,”Kim said.

rahnita@koreatimes.co.kr

A tale on a romantic relationship guru

A tale on a romantic relationship guru

This is the tenth in a series of columns by James Lee, CEO of the matchmaking firm Sunoo (www.couple.net), about various aspects of marriage based on his 20 years in the business. _ ED. By James Lee About 20 years ago, I knew a man and when I first met him he was very shy around women. He was very inexperienced in dating and relationships. Maybe he realized he needed to have a better understanding of women because when he turned 30 he started learning about women first-hand and in-depth. Through meeting various types of women, he gained more insight into them and eventually got married. It’s hard to imagine that this was the same man who had been so nervous around women before. I met this self-assured and successful man a few years later. He was a new divorcé. He wanted to remarry and have a family; however, he complained that too much knowledge about women was hindering him. He may have assumed that due to his previous relationships with women he would have no problem remarrying. However, I think that he became too analytical about women and love and will not be satisfied with any woman he meets because he has lost the ability to love someone purely. At the time I met him again, his health seemed to have deteriorated and his energy decreased. I believe these to be the aftereffects of all the energy he devoted to dating. He may have dated many women, but he had never experienced true love. He looked very lonely and unfortunate. There have been many books and articles written about dating and relationships. However, all those methods are based on other people’s experiences and trying to solve your relationship problems by using other people’s experiences as a point of reference is not always helpful. You will mistakenly think that you can apply someone else’s case to your own or that you can understand every relationship situation. Your deluded confidence will increase your chances of overlooking serious problems. It isn’t the most important thing to learn how to date and get along with many people. You need to find a person that is compatible with you and learn how to maintain a relationship with that person. There is no need to know everything about love in order to experience it. The process of loving someone else requires more than simply mere acceptance. Romantic love encompasses a deeper understanding of someone mentally, emotionally, and physically. An amateur’s clumsy and honest passion will ripen love. Captivate someone with just a look? A false sense of accomplishment will follow. Isn’t it more beautiful to find someone you can devote your life to and grow old together with? If he had learned to devote himself to one woman, he might have been much happier. Multiple partners only lead to shallow relationships. Even if it is requires more time and effort, it is important to meet someone that you can connect to on various levels, which will ultimately produce a more meaningful and long-lasting relationship. Things to Consider When Meeting Members of the Opposite Sex We asked 50 of our Match Consultants what they thought were the most important things to think about when meeting a member of the opposite sex for the first time. In both the cases of men and women the most important point of concern was family make-up. The difference in rates of salience could be attributed to an idea that women look at a man's parents, their personalities for clues as to what marital life might be like, whereas men may believe that women resemble their mothers and they must therefore meet a woman's mother to know about her. If we look at what aspect of potential partners' personalities in which people were interested, sociability, trustworthiness and concern were common among all. Women also looked for leadership qualities and a sense of responsibility in men, and men looked for potential partners who listen well and tend to affirm their words. Also, rather than looking at men's pure economic potential, there was a tendency to prefer looking for signs of an ability to deal with crisis and a certain vitality for survival. In addition to this, there were slight tendencies for women to find it important to discover whether a man's friends were people whom they respected, and for men to look into a woman's consumer habits and lifestyle. In addition to this, for men there was also a slight tendency to enjoy the company of a woman who made it easy for them to visually enjoy their appearances. One point to note was that on either side of the gender line, there was almost no preference in terms of career. pss@koreatimes.co.kr

James Lee

What Are the Odds of Older Men Finding an Attractive Wife?

What Are the Odds of Older Men Finding an Attractive Wife?

Sunoo CEO James Lee This is the third in a series of columns by James Lee, CEO of matchmaking firm Sunoo (www.couple.net), about various aspects of marriage on the basis of their 20 years in business. ED. When I first was starting my matchmaking business 20 years ago, there was a man that I remember very clearly: He was young and was pursued by numerous women, but he rejected all of them due to a lack of chemistry. For 10 years I tried to set him up with many women, but he continued to complain about chemistry and looks. Recently, he turned 45 and paid me a visit. With time and aging, his appearance had inevitably changed, and he had gained weight and was losing his hair. He was still single and still focused on the importance of physical chemistry. This man's case inspired me to investigate this topic further. I believe that older men have lower chances of getting married and that their chances will decrease even more if they set their physical attractiveness/chemistry standards too high. One of the reasons older men have a harder time getting married is financial; they often appeal to younger women because of their perceived economic stability and need to be wary of women who are simply attracted to them for their money. However, a bigger reason is their desire to marry an attractive woman (and not looking objectively and realistically at themselves and their own attractiveness). Men often exaggerate the truth about themselves, saying that they look younger than their actual age or that they are more financially successful than they really are. As men age, they tend to have fewer opportunities to meet women and therefore need to decrease the amount of importance they place on attractiveness. According to our research, many men have more success in getting married when they place less emphasis on looks. For our study we used information from our member database to examine the relationship between the men's age and the women's attractiveness at the time of marriage. We categorized 3,291 women that were married in the past ten years to men aged 29 to 38. Men that were age 30 when they got married had wives with an average attractiveness score of 81.77, men who got married at age 33 had wives with an average score of 81.11 and men who got married at age 37 married women with an average score of 79.71. This data shows that as men got older the perceived attractiveness of their wives decreased. As men get older they decrease the emphasis they place on physical attractiveness. This research has important implications. First, if you place a lot of importance on attractiveness and chemistry as mate selection criteria, it is optimal to get married earlier than later in life. If we take a look at the data comparing the husband's age and their wife's attractiveness, we can see that husbands aged 29 had the brides with the highest attractiveness scores. Secondly, women these days prefer to marry men similar in age. This doesn't mean that women do not like older men but that they simply have some concerns about marrying someone older. For example, women may fear becoming a widow at an early age. Third, women also consider attractiveness as an important factor. Older men's mature and stable image may be appealing to some women, but women usually feel more naturally attracted to younger men. Isn't it human nature for someone presented with two potential romantic partners with identical qualifications that only differ in age to select the younger one? My advice is that if you are not willing to compromise on looks and strong physical attraction, you will have better luck and more satisfying results if you try marry by the age of 29. Couple.net affiliate Marriage & Relationship R&D Division conducted a study using 3,291 males from our member database between the ages of 29 and 38 that had gotten married in the past ten years to female Couple.net members. The accompanying table and graph compares the PAI (physical attractiveness index) that female members received when they registered and that was recorded in our member database. The average attractiveness score was 80.66. The data graphed shows that until age 34 the attractive ratings are above the average. However, after the age of 34, the scores drop below the average. For men who married between the ages of 29 and 33, their wives had an average score of 81 compared to 84.88 for men aged 35. Compared to this, men between 34 and 37 married women with lower attractiveness scores.The results show that older men seem to be more willing to lower their expectations on physical attractiveness when selecting a spouse.

A tale on a romantic relationship guru

A tale on a romantic relationship guru

This is the tenth in a series of columns by James Lee, CEO of the matchmaking firm Sunoo (www.couple.net), about various aspects of marriage based on his 20 years in the business. _ ED. By James Lee About 20 years ago, I knew a man and when I first met him he was very shy around women. He was very inexperienced in dating and relationships. Maybe he realized he needed to have a better understanding of women because when he turned 30 he started learning about women first-hand and in-depth. Through meeting various types of women, he gained more insight into them and eventually got married. It’s hard to imagine that this was the same man who had been so nervous around women before. I met this self-assured and successful man a few years later. He was a new divorcé. He wanted to remarry and have a family; however, he complained that too much knowledge about women was hindering him. He may have assumed that due to his previous relationships with women he would have no problem remarrying. However, I think that he became too analytical about women and love and will not be satisfied with any woman he meets because he has lost the ability to love someone purely. At the time I met him again, his health seemed to have deteriorated and his energy decreased. I believe these to be the aftereffects of all the energy he devoted to dating. He may have dated many women, but he had never experienced true love. He looked very lonely and unfortunate. There have been many books and articles written about dating and relationships. However, all those methods are based on other people’s experiences and trying to solve your relationship problems by using other people’s experiences as a point of reference is not always helpful. You will mistakenly think that you can apply someone else’s case to your own or that you can understand every relationship situation. Your deluded confidence will increase your chances of overlooking serious problems. It isn’t the most important thing to learn how to date and get along with many people. You need to find a person that is compatible with you and learn how to maintain a relationship with that person. There is no need to know everything about love in order to experience it. The process of loving someone else requires more than simply mere acceptance. Romantic love encompasses a deeper understanding of someone mentally, emotionally, and physically. An amateur’s clumsy and honest passion will ripen love. Captivate someone with just a look? A false sense of accomplishment will follow. Isn’t it more beautiful to find someone you can devote your life to and grow old together with? If he had learned to devote himself to one woman, he might have been much happier. Multiple partners only lead to shallow relationships. Even if it is requires more time and effort, it is important to meet someone that you can connect to on various levels, which will ultimately produce a more meaningful and long-lasting relationship. Things to Consider When Meeting Members of the Opposite Sex We asked 50 of our Match Consultants what they thought were the most important things to think about when meeting a member of the opposite sex for the first time. In both the cases of men and women the most important point of concern was family make-up. The difference in rates of salience could be attributed to an idea that women look at a man's parents, their personalities for clues as to what marital life might be like, whereas men may believe that women resemble their mothers and they must therefore meet a woman's mother to know about her. If we look at what aspect of potential partners' personalities in which people were interested, sociability, trustworthiness and concern were common among all. Women also looked for leadership qualities and a sense of responsibility in men, and men looked for potential partners who listen well and tend to affirm their words. Also, rather than looking at men's pure economic potential, there was a tendency to prefer looking for signs of an ability to deal with crisis and a certain vitality for survival. In addition to this, there were slight tendencies for women to find it important to discover whether a man's friends were people whom they respected, and for men to look into a woman's consumer habits and lifestyle. In addition to this, for men there was also a slight tendency to enjoy the company of a woman who made it easy for them to visually enjoy their appearances. One point to note was that on either side of the gender line, there was almost no preference in terms of career. pss@koreatimes.co.kr

"Miss Gold, calculating and picky accusation image" in korea

The ability of the 30 men, "women like a pretty 20" 

"Miss Gold, calculating and picky accusation image" 

(AP) Kim Dong Kyue reporter = "'thirty-three old age you do not mind that' acquaintances to ask for a blind date, too many women in around '20 in defiance of 20 women makes arrangements." 

Once a month the foreign companies that go out on a blind date a woman who joined four years (33) "The purpose of 30 women can not escape, but 20 women are being introduced more frequently," he said. 

   Notice is preparing domestic enterprises for thirty years, joining the Park (34) Mr. natural 20 rather than 30 women have the opportunity to meet tons of women told us. 

   Park, the "new recruits are coming in every woman they naturally have a friend introduce prayers continue to go after a meeting with 20 women," he said. 

   

◇ 30 대 男 + 20 대 女 = natural match 

Kim and Park, as seen in the case of many men deliberately excluded 30 women and 20 young women not only choose to meet. 

   Graduated from college and got the job based on the successful and somewhat more than thirty years old male is very likely that if you are already big, and these younger women and dating social atmosphere around the mid to late 20's people would suffer about women is common. 

   Among women in the 'thirty to pass a marriage is difficult' to listen to the advice to heart to try to geuphaejyeo married women in her mid-20s, and increasingly severe employment in the job market to give up 'chwijip (instead of working unmarried) 20 seconds, you want to have women in the mid-gaining trend. 

   Economy has a steady job with a 'ready-spouse' to the 20 women the opportunity to meet many yet, 30 women '30 men ready' to trying to get attention for something else 'special one' seems to require. 

   Last year's team at Seoul National University Department of Psychology and matchmaking services choeincheol Duo unmarried men and women in the 20-30 survey was conducted. 

   According to the survey, men are more than 3 to 4 years younger wives (42%) or 1 ~ 2 years younger (14.3%) was the thinking. 

   In general, men between the ages of 33-34 is in his late 20s to baewoojagam If you want a lot of women saying that. 

   20 young women want men to one of the main reasons 'acid (老 产)' is worried about. 

   Men who responded to interview people with their "giving birth to 2 years to think as long as it is the young woman would choose a spouse" and "30 women gave birth to a child 'acid' is not an issue that is worrying about something that" he has hanmoksorireul . 

   

◇ Gold Miss 'unnerving' 

Men with high education to raise income, but falling in the age of thirty passed 'Gold Miss' What do you think as you do baewoojagam. 

   Graduated from local universities and small businesses working in my aunt (32) says, "Miss Gold sensed that people like me in this city do not know, I'm in a word 'ttaengkyuda'" he said. 

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(AP) reporter = 10, Korea Education Development Institute banjongbin Statistical Yearbook of Education data, 1985-2005 growth status unmarried women by age. bjbin@yna.co.kr @ yonhap_graphics (Twitter) 

   After getting married skyrocketing home values and child support and considering the economy as a woman a few years old that is why there is no need to resist. 

   Lee, "when you're married to split housework and the wife, even my parents just as I plan to do better," said "economic stability, but not a sufficient condition for happiness, even though I think the requirement should be," he said. 

   However, most men pay a workable position for Miss Gold wrote. 

   From schools in three months of dating and saw Miss Gold choemo (33) says, "a woman friend of a friend and accountant, civil servant, was lined with large staff and most of my friends to talk to your friends whenever you go to a small company pride was hurt," said " If married life would be living in the gap between this kind of inconvenient and burdensome heck I first broke it, "he said. 

   Choi, "Miss Gold is so good that a lot of restaurants go, go with the picnic spots are already a commonplace for those cases where the four yeoseo wabwatdeon tolerable event to be difficult sikigido greatly impressed" and "hard to spend money to feel in vain," he wrote. 

   Choi, "Honestly, even after she married and income, while also taking care of children to some extent is expected to need you to take care of housework," he said. 

   

Miss Gold is bouncing ◇ jupanal gyesankkun 

Men think of when they think about the dinner, Miss Gold 'calculations go here and difficult' is an image too. 

   Working in large corporations as a surrogate Park (33), who co-worker from a pretty decent last year, introduced Miss Gold saying I was allowed to hear the progress could not have become blind dates before meeting. 

   Park, "to arrange a party out there in the graduate school and why kaemuleotdeoni salary, where you live, occupation and wealth to the level of parents was kicked to learn" and "If I meet a person would recognize the atmosphere in the report after ripening jupanal twinggyeotdaneun from unpleasant to think a lot of pride was hurt, "he wrote. 

   If you ask for love to Miss Gold, "If it is a neutral man," he is not going to meet anyone when you know daphajiman above average standards is making a lot of the intellectual. 

   Domestic conglomerates four won Park, "'ordinary man' enough for you that women are more 'pyeongbeomham for' talk with them I checked, in Seoul, four-year college with me everyone may be known the name of the job by taking above-average incomes and lower, assumptions economic difficulties, no peace, and above average looking and not motsaenggijin geodeora men say, "he said. 

   Midsize agency Kim (31) says, "rather they want to find a good man I understand women," he, but he "does not end when you start surveying the conditions. Gorda man with a good deal more to miss the right person saw a lot around," he advised said. 

   Miss Gold eyes very successful men's consumption behavior is sometimes seen as a luxury. 

   Accountants from Stanford and has been dating Kim (32) "The money he has to write what he can not do, but you want 200-3000000 won hundreds of thousands of luxury bags and shoes every few months while buying almost reasonable consumption I guess you hit on the head with a puzzled that said, "and" such a household nor married to the idea if you were honestly scared, "he said. 

<괜찮은 남자들이 30대 미혼여성 외면하는 이유>

한 결혼정보회사가 주최한 단체 미팅에서 미혼 남녀들이 즐거운 시간을 보내고 있다. 지난해 서울대 심리학과가 20~30대 미혼 남녀를 대상으로 조사한 결과에 따르면 남성들은 이상적인 결혼 상대자로 3~4세 연하(42%)나 1~2세 연하(14.3%)를 생각하는 것으로 나타났다. 일반적으로 33~34세 정도의 남성이면 배우자감으로 20대 후반의 여성을 원하는 경우가 많은 것으로 해석할 수 있다. <자료사진>

능력 있는 30대 남성들 "예쁜 20대 여성이 좋아"
"골드미스, 계산적이고 까다롭게 따지는 이미지"

(서울=연합뉴스) 김동규 기자 = "'서른세 살 동갑도 괜찮다'고 지인들에게 소개팅을 부탁하는데, 주위에선 '20대 여성도 많다'며 20대 여성들을 주선해줍니다."
매달 한번은 소개팅에 나간다는 외국계 기업 입사 4년차 김모(33) 씨는 "30대 여성을 일부러 피하진 않지만 20대 여성을 더 자주 소개받고 있다"고 말했다.

   고시 준비를 하다 서른 살에 국내 대기업에 입사한 박모(34) 씨도 30대 여성들보다는 자연스럽게 20대 여성들과 만나는 기회가 많다고 털어놨다.

   박씨는 "매년 여자 신입사원들이 들어오고 이들이 친구를 소개해주기도 해 자연스럽게 계속 20대 여성과 만남을 이어가고 있다"고 말했다.

  
◇ 30대男 + 20대女 = 자연스런 매칭
김씨와 박씨의 경우에서 볼 수 있듯이 많은 남성이 일부러 30대 여성을 배제하고 20대 어린 여성만을 골라 만나는 것은 아니다.

   대학을 졸업하고 취업에 성공해 어느 정도 기반을 잡은 남성이라면 이미 서른 살이 넘었을 가능성이 큰데, 이들은 연하의 여성과 사귀는 사회 분위기 속에서 주위 사람들에게 20대 중후반의 여성을 소개받는 일이 흔하다.

   여성들 사이에서도 '서른 넘기면 결혼하기 어려워진다'는 충고를 듣고 마음이 급해져 결혼을 위해 노력하는 20대 중반의 여성도 있고, 갈수록 심해지는 취업난에 구직을 포기하고 '취집(취업 대신 시집가기)'을 원하는 20대 초·중반의 여성도 느는 추세다.

   안정적인 직업을 갖고 경제력을 갖춘 '준비된 신랑감'에게 20대 여성을 만날 기회는 아직 많고, 30대 여성이 '준비된 30대 남성'의 시선을 끌려면 뭔가 다른 '특별한 것'이 필요한 듯하다.

   지난해 서울대 심리학과 최인철 교수팀과 결혼정보회사 듀오가 20~30대 미혼 남녀를 대상으로 설문 조사를 실시했다.

   이 조사 결과에 따르면 남성들은 이상적인 결혼 상대자로 3~4세 연하(42%)나 1~2세 연하(14.3%)를 생각하는 것으로 나타났다.

   일반적으로 33~34세 정도의 남성이면 배우자감으로 20대 후반의 여성을 원하는 경우가 많다는 얘기다.

   남성들이 20대 젊은 여성을 원하는 중요한 이유 중 하나는 '노산(老産)'에 대한 걱정이다.

   취재에 응한 남성들은 하나같이 "2세 출산을 생각하면 이왕이면 젊은 여자를 배우자로 선택하겠다"며 "30대 여성은 아이를 낳는데 '노산'이 문제가 되지 않을까 걱정되는 게 사실"이라고 한목소리를 냈다.

  
◇ 골드미스 '부담스러워'
남성들은 학력이 높고 고소득을 올리지만, 나이는 서른을 훌쩍 넘긴 '골드미스'를 배우자감으로 어떻게 생각할까.

   지방대학을 졸업하고 중소기업에서 일하는 이모(32) 씨는 "골드미스들이 나 같은 사람이 성에 찰지 모르겠지만, 나는 한마디로 '땡큐다'"라고 말했다.

<그래픽> 여성 미혼 증가율 (서울=연합뉴스) 반종빈 기자 = 10일 한국교육개발원 교육통계연보 자료, 1985년 부터 2005년까지 여성 연령대별 미혼 증가율 현황. bjbin@yna.co.kr @yonhap_graphics(트위터)

   치솟는 주택값과 결혼 후 자녀 양육비 등을 고려해보면 경제력 있는 여자를 나이 몇 살 때문에 마다할 필요가 없다는 것이 이유다.

   이씨는 "결혼하게 되면 집안일도 나눠서 할 생각이고 처가에도 우리 부모님께 하듯 잘할 계획"이라며 "경제적 안정이 행복의 충분조건은 아니지만, 필요조건은 되는 것 같다고 생각한다"고 말했다.

   그러나 대부분의 남자는 골드미스에 대해 부담스럽다는 입장을 토로했다.

   명문대 출신의 골드미스와 3개월간 사귀어 봤다는 최모(33) 씨는 "여자친구의 친구들은 회계사, 공무원, 대기업 직원이 즐비했는데 내 친구들은 대부분 작은 회사에 다녀 친구 얘길 할 때마다 자존심이 상했다"면서 "결혼하면 평생 이런 식의 격차를 안고 살아야 할 텐데 도무지 불편하고 부담스러워 내가 먼저 헤어지자고 했다"고 말했다.

   최씨는 "골드미스들은 워낙 좋은 레스토랑도 많이 가보고, 나들이 명소에 데리고 가도 이미 와봤던 곳인 경우가 다반사여서 웬만한 이벤트를 준비해서는 크게 감동시키기도 어렵다"며 "돈 쓰는 보람도 느끼기 힘들다"고 토로했다.

   최씨는 "솔직히 여자가 결혼하고 나서도 맞벌이도 하면서 아이도 어느 정도 돌봐주고 집안일도 챙겨 줬으면 하는 기대가 있다"고 밝혔다.

  
◇ 골드미스는 주판알 튕기는 계산꾼
남자들이 떠올리는 골드미스에 대한 생각 중엔 '계산적이고 까다롭게 따진다'는 이미지도 있다.

   대기업에서 대리로 일하는 박모(33)씨는 지난해 회사 동료로부터 예쁘고 괜찮은 골드미스를 소개해주겠다는 말을 듣고 흔쾌히 허락했는데 만나기도 전에 소개팅은 없던 일이 됐다.

   박씨는 "주선자에게 이유를 캐물었더니 그쪽에서 내 출신 대학과 연봉, 사는 곳, 부모님 직업과 재산 수준까지 알아보고 찼던 것이었다"며 "나 같으면 일단 만나보고 분위기가 무르익고 나서 알아볼 텐데 사람도 안 보고 주판알부터 튕겼다는 생각에 기분 나쁘고 자존심도 많이 상했다"고 토로했다.

   골드미스에게 이상형을 물으면 "그냥 무난한 남자면 된다"고 답하지만 알고 보면 아무나 충족시킬 순 없는 보통 이상의 기준을 세우고 있다는 지적이 많다.

   국내 대기업 사원 박씨는 "'평범한 남자'면 만족한다는 여자들이 많아 '평범함'에 대해 이들과 얘기해봤더니, 서울에 있는 4년제 대학을 나와 누구나 알 만한 이름의 직장에 다니면서 평균 이상의 소득을 올리고, 가정도 경제적 어려움 없고 화목하며, 외모도 못생기진 않은 평균 이상의 남자를 말하는 거더라"고 꼬집었다.

   중견기업 대리 김모(31)씨는 "이왕이면 좋은 사람 찾고 싶은 여자들의 심정은 이해한다"고 말하면서도 "조건을 따지기 시작하면 끝도 없다. 더 좋은 조건 갖춘 남자 고르다 적당한 사람 놓치는 것을 주위에서 많이 봤다"고 충고했다.

   남자들 눈엔 돈 잘 버는 골드미스들의 소비행태도 사치로 비칠 때가 있다.

   명문대를 나온 회계사와 사귄 적이 있다는 김모(32) 씨는 "자기가 번 돈을 자기가 쓰는 것을 가지고 뭐라 할 순 없지만, 200~300만 원하는 명품 가방이나 수십만 원짜리 구두를 거의 몇 개월마다 사면서 합리적인 소비를 하는 거로 생각하는 것엔 고개가 갸우뚱했다"면서 "결혼해서도 저렇게 살림한다면 하는 생각에 솔직히 겁나더라"고 말했다.

   dkkim@yna.co.kr